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Remember I've only traveled as far as AZ for a hot second (which I know hardly makes a shit difference ) but nope , I ain't heard of no snake hoe. I've got gardening hoe, sexy hoe and Idahoe

So now I can add Snake Hoe to my list of weird things I have learned about like Poop Knife.

Happy Christmas Eve guys!

Duuuude that totally sucks. I hope you feel better soon.

Glad things are doing okay there for the most part. We've been slightly having some crazy weather here to where we've been having flood warnings near main rivers but overall nothing yet. Winter should be fun.

Just release a pack of wolves, worked with Michigan and their Moose problem. https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/43z5bg/canadian-wolves-airdropped-into-michigan-to-kill-moose-and-have-babies

Sorry that shit is sucking but I'm glad you've had some silver lining to it. *hugs* We love you guys!

Whooooooo gurl yaas!

SENDING ALL THE GOOD JUU JUU AT YOU!

I'm so sorry for your loss. Especially when you didn't get the chance to say what you wanted.

All the hugs and feels your way hun.

Yay!!!

The last time I was summoned for jury duty, they gave me a group # and a phone # to call. So when I called it, a recording would tell me if my group # was needed or not for a scheduled time and when my group wasn't needed. I would just have to call back the next day. I kept that up for about a week and still didn't need my group so I stopped calling and never got word back. And haven't been summoned again yet. I would hate going through what you did since it's a pain for most to try and get time off for summons.

As stated in other thread, just got done with the big Ren-faire I work at every Aug so other than 2 weddings to deal with in Sept-Oct. I got nothing next major planned. I'm so tired and ready for hermit mode for a bit.

I'm sure it's gonna look great at the end of it all!

You needed the workout right?

Thanks for the kind words everyone. I have been trying to keep negative RL stuff separate from my online presence since like it was said. This is something that is gonna suck when it happens. The feels got overwhelming after getting off the phone with mom and brain got to thinking about all the things of life stuff. My grandma's a fucking firecracker who's outlived her siblings, parents, and husband. Dealt with a lot of outer circle family drama like a champ. And has taught me a lot of how I wanted to be as a person. Watching her have that spark drain out of her is hard af.

It really hit hard about seeing how much of her memory had gone last Christmas. Knowing how dementia works and seeing it really are two different worlds. I'm closer with her than my grandparents on my dad's side. But that's because we did more family gatherings on my mom's side since that inner circle of the family lives closer than my dad's side. (Grandparents on my dad's side used to live 2 hours away and even after moving to a facility after my grandmother on that side has fallen enough times to have both hips replaced, still lives about an hour-ish away. Aunt on that side lives just as far, uncle is the only one on that side who lives close and he's a snob ) And she's done a lot supporting me on a bunch of things in my live vs the other side of the family, even if it wasn't much. My brother is being standoffish about seeing her and my aunt's son has done his visit. I know I suck at keeping in touch in general but I know I would hate myself if I didn't at least see her soon before it finally happens.

So I don't normally talk about my family a lot, just because mostly it never really comes up in topics or anything. I got a text from my mom saying "can u talk?" so I know it's not gonna good news but it's her way of keeping me up to speed on family things she wants me to know. My grandmother on her side has dementia. She's in her mid 90's and it began about a couple years ago which led from her living on her own in a condo, to moving to a facility when she started falling more often. And then recently being moved to a different facility where she will have much closer attention. Her heart congestion is getting worse along with her memory and has had a couple trips to hospital in this last month to where my mom and aunt who have been tag teaming to see and check in on her to where they both have the goal of making her as comfortable as possible since the back and forth from her facility to hospital is too much stress on her now. So this call was the "She's getting along okay but if you have some time soon to drop in a visit...." call. I already had a feeling that this year might be it from mom's updates. Hell my grandma has straight up told my mom when her dementia first started that she's ready to rejoin my grandpa. I've made rough plans to try and see her on either my next day off or after one of my early shifts at work because despite what how my mom is making it sound, it may be sooner than I was thinking. And I know no matter how much you try to prepare yourself for these times when it comes it's not gonna be easy. Hell I had to keep my answers short talking to mom because I was trying to hide my voice and crying on the line just thinking about it. We've had family pass before but there are only one or two times where it's hit me hard. the last time being my grandpa.

I'm really sorry hun, *hugs* hope the next chapter is a more adventurous one!

My roomie kinda went through something similar with his current new(ish) GF. They've been going out for a handful of months I think. Her mother who she had been taking care of and living with passed away recently. And there was a time where they didn't see each other for awhile and while he gave her space, he was starting to worry that things with them would fall through. He still made sure to text her and at least check in on her while giving her space, if they had plans and if she ended up feeling not up for it (like on one occasion she found some of her parents paperwork on something and it sent her in an emotional spiral) so there were times that they cancelled. But in the end, like Galeigh said, my roomie was honest with her and let her know that he was still in for this (even went to the funeral with her which she was grateful for) and they're starting to get back on track. So no, it's not stupid that you feel something for him in a short amount of time. Your feelings are valid. And yes respect his space and give him time to sort himself out, but just make sure you're being honest with him and your feelings and even if he might not be feeling like hanging out. Let him know you're there to cheer him on when he's job hunting, or thinking of him (I'm sure this sounds rambly preaching or something so forgive me if it does) I hope things get worked out, you look cute together.

Just do what Ghost did and move up to WA. We got shit ton of possums up here too!

GIMME DAT BLT!

God the last few days have been insane. So I had one of my SCA events over the weekend. This one is our Spring-Summer open to the public demo event where we demo all the things we do to Moderns as we call them (kinda think of it like Muggles i guess?). Thurs and Fri set up day. Sat is the demo. And Sunday is remainder of tourneys and tear down. Got home from tear down around 5ish, unloaded car, showered, ate and then passed the fuck out before working today. Tomorrow is a day off to do all the laundry, car wash and what not. So very tired. but loads of fun with good friends.

Niiiiiice what kind of cruise? Tomorrow I leave for one of my nerdy medieval things. I'll be back Sunday.